I had a conversation today standing beside the vinegar in a Walmart aisle, while trying to prevent my three year old from blocking every passing cart as he sorted the macaroni on the shelf. An acquaintance who does not know the Lord and who is aware of our adoption was simply baffled by our family makeup. The conversation went something like this...
Lady: "I just don't know how you do it."
Me: "By the grace of God and taking one day at a time. When it's your life you just do it I guess."
[Sometimes one minute at a time, to be perfectly honest.]
Lady: "I mean, you did choose it though."
Me: "Sort of. When God tells you to do something, you kind of just say okay and go with it. He was pretty clear about this one."
[Ignoring God seems ill advised. Ask Jonah.]
Lady: "But adding THREE children at once? Why would you do it?"
Me: "Well. If not us, then who? Who else is going to offer these children stability and a home? After all, why not us?"
This. This is the honest why behind what we do. If not us, then who? If not you and I, the church of God, then who else? Who else will welcome his beautiful children with open arms and an open door? Why not us? Because we are exhausted and don't have great health and already have kids and don't have experience and aren't wealthy and we have dreams (good dreams!) which include a normally functioning family and...and...and...yeah. We tried those reasons. We did. His response was always the same. If not you, then who? Who else is going to love them no matter what? Who else is going to let them fight and scream and cry and rage and still be there when they're done? Who else is going to laugh with them every day and notice that sparkle in their eyes? Who else is going to stick around long enough to find out who these precious people really are inside? If not you, you for whom the Father has looked beyond your fighting and raging and defiance and has sacrificed his own Son in order to welcome you into His own family by adoption...if not you, then who?
The how is Him. The how is always Him. The who, though...that is us.